Colton Underwood, the First Homosexual ‘Bachelor,’ Confronts His Controversial Coming Out

Colton Underwood didn’t plan on ever telling the world that he was homosexual. In any case, he’d starred as “The Bachelor” in 2019 to scout for a spouse on nationwide tv, looking for love amongst 30 aspiring brides-to-be. The tv persona was satisfied he’d spend his whole life pretending to be a straight man — pushed into that path by his church and small-town, conservative upbringing in Illinois.

However final month, Underwood made nationwide headlines by popping out to Robin Roberts in a bombshell “Good Morning America” interview, shattering the heteronormative conventions of ABC’s top-rated actuality relationship juggernaut franchise. After hiding his attraction to males since his early teenagers, the 29-year-old former NFL participant initially disclosed his sexuality to another person a yr in the past: his publicist.

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The confession was prompted not by liberation however out of worry. “I’ll simply say it,” Underwood reveals on a latest afternoon, nonetheless adjusting to his new life as an brazenly homosexual man. “I, at one level, throughout my all-time low and spiral, was getting blackmailed. No person is aware of I used to be blackmailed.”

Underwood takes a deep breath, as he tells this story for the primary time. Based on him, final yr, whereas residing in Los Angeles, he secretly visited a spa recognized for catering to homosexual clientele. Shortly thereafter, he obtained an nameless electronic mail, which has been reviewed by Selection, from somebody claiming to have taken his nude images on the venue. Underwood by no means noticed the alleged images and explains he was on the spa “simply to look,” saying he “ought to have by no means been there.” The unidentified sender threatened to “out” him within the press, and in a panic of paranoia, Underwood forwarded the e-mail to his publicist, Alex Spieller, which compelled him to lastly have an sincere dialog about his sexual orientation.

“I knew that out of anyone in my world, my publicist wasn’t going to smash me,” Underwood explains.

Tv — particularly actuality TV — has revolutionized how LGBTQ persons are represented in common tradition. At one time, popping out of the closet was deemed a profession killer, however exhibits like “The Actual World,” “Survivor” and the unique “Queer Eye for the Straight Man,” now rebooted on Netflix, led to a profound, optimistic transformation in how homosexual persons are perceived, and helped result in progressive modifications to LGBTQ civil rights. As new generations of millennials and Gen Zers have grown up with LGBTQ associates and function fashions, homosexual Individuals have attained the suitable to marry, and queerness has develop into extra mainstream in media, as confirmed in exhibits like HBO’s highschool hit “Euphoria” and basically half of the characters within the Ryan Murphy universe.

A homosexual “Bachelor,” although? Underwood’s popping out, so quickly after he’d entered into thousands and thousands of viewers’ properties because the poster boy of fairy-tale heterosexuality — the Ken doll-like star of a serious relationship franchise — touched a nerve.

Seen via the prism of actuality TV, social media, sports activities and religion, and as somebody who was raised with conservative values, he immediately discovered himself mired in controversy. His announcement that he was homosexual coincided with information that he was filming a Netflix actuality present about his new life.

Social media lit up with accusations that Underwood was monetizing his coming-out story. And others legitimately argued that as a hunky white homosexual man, he was benefiting from privilege, taking a platform that different members of the queer group deserved greater than he did. Some critics questioned: Was his whole season of “The Bachelor” an act for fame, as he strung alongside girls with rose petals and romantic kisses?

Underwood’s bigger highlight introduced consideration to the main points of his relationship along with his ex-girlfriend Cassie Randolph, whom he dated for a yr and a half after assembly her on “The Bachelor.” In court docket paperwork, she filed a restraining order in September 2020, alleging that he stalked her and positioned a monitoring gadget on her automobile.

Raffy Ermac, the editor-in-chief of Delight, a popular culture and leisure web site for LGBTQ millennials, says Underwood popping out publicly was courageous. “However on the identical time, we shouldn’t be glorifying somebody who has this historical past of allegedly stalking a girl.”

A petition on, signed by 35,000 individuals thus far, is pressuring Netflix to cancel the upcoming Underwood collection due to these allegations.

Regardless of receiving loss of life threats, Underwood says that talking his fact was the suitable factor to do. After his “GMA” interview aired on April 14, he was additionally inundated with congratulatory messages. “I’m completely happy for @colton,” tweeted Billy Eichner. “If you happen to’re homosexual, be homosexual!” And Andy Cohen chimed in on Twitter: “You’re free now, @colton. A toaster is on its method.”

Over a two-hour interview with Selection, Underwood remains to be processing his new life. On this present day, earlier than filming a scene for his actuality present, he’s wearing informal apparel: joggers, a black baseball cap and purple Nikes. At one level, he picks up his iPhone and scrolls via DMs from strangers, admitting he’s most touched by those that write to inform him he’s made them really feel much less alone by popping out.

“I do know persons are saying that this story has been instructed, however I grew up in Central Illinois,” Underwood says. “I had by no means seen a soccer participant that had made it to the NFL that had been homosexual, rising up Catholic.” He factors to a number of the extra touching messages he’s obtained. “I’ve had tons of of homosexual Christian women and men who’re confused of their stroll with Jesus say, ‘I felt nearer to God after I got here out.’”

As our dialog continues, Underwood addresses the media protection of his “Bachelor” breakup. Randolph, who declined to remark for this story, dropped the restraining order towards him with prejudice two months after she filed final yr.

Attributable to a joint settlement with Randolph, Underwood is proscribed in what he can say. However he talks concerning the scenario in higher element than he has earlier than. First, he needs to clear the air, as a result of he’s seen the phrase “abuse” subsequent to his identify in press stories. “I didn’t bodily contact or bodily abuse Cassie in any method, form or kind,” he says.

“I by no means need individuals to suppose that I’m popping out to alter the narrative, or to brush over and never take duty for my actions, and now that I’ve this homosexual life that I don’t have to deal with my previous as a straight man,” Underwood says. “Controlling conditions to attempt to grasp at any a part of the straight fantasy that I used to be attempting to stay out was so unsuitable.”

Underwood says that after Randolph broke up with him, he was in “such a darkish place” as a result of he knew, in his coronary heart, his final straight relationship was over and he’d lastly need to face his true actuality. He apologizes for his conduct towards her and her household. “It’s not who I’m as a human being, and it’s not how I carry myself,” Underwood says. “If there was something I may do to take extra possession, I’d. But additionally, out of respect to her, I don’t wish to get into the main points. I would like this interview to be the final time I handle her, as a result of it’s not honest for her to have her identify in articles each time I discuss. I’m sorry, and I would like her to know that I hope she has the very best, most stunning life.”

After they cut up, Underwood and Randolph have been filming a brand new actuality present collectively in the summertime of 2020 with Jeff Jenkins Productions, Selection has realized. The present, which was developed, however by no means formally pitched, would have adopted the exes’ life as associates in L.A., however the mission collapsed with the restraining order and police investigation, which Randolph requested was dropped in November 2020. Later, as Underwood’s very small internal circle got here to find out about his sexuality, the manufacturing firm pitched him on the thought of a present about his journey popping out, and after 5 months of remedy and assembly with a psychiatrist, Underwood determined his story may assist others. The present in the end bought to Netflix, and is slated to premiere later this yr.

As for “The Bachelor,” Underwood’s popping out has arrived throughout a turbulent yr for the franchise. The relationship collection, which launched in 2002, remains to be a serious income generator for ABC and the community’s top-rated unscripted collection, attracting a mean of greater than 5 million viewers for its most up-to-date, twenty fifth season. And whereas a 30-minute spot on “The Bachelor” nonetheless fetches a mean of $154,886, in line with Advert Age, the present has come below hearth for a scarcity of range. The latest casting of its first Black Bachelor, Matt James, did little to quiet the criticism. The franchise’s longtime host, Chris Harrison, stepped apart after he defended profitable contestant Rachael Kirkconnell, embroiled in scandal when images resurfaced of her at an Antebellum plantation-themed fraternity celebration.

As “The Bachelor” pledges to be extra inclusive, Underwood’s story solely highlights the shortage of range inside the franchise’s depiction of affection. Apart from one queer feminine couple on “Bachelor in Paradise” — the franchise’s first and solely same-sex pairing — the present exists in a world populated solely by straight individuals.

“It’s arduous to alter the format that has been carried out the identical method — a person and a girl — for therefore a few years,” says Anthony Allen Ramos, GLAAD’s head of expertise. “However I undoubtedly hope that we get to see extra LGBTQ illustration. If persons are in a position to see an LGBTQ particular person on ‘The Bachelor’ or ‘The Bachelorette,’ there’s lots of potential for impression.”

ABC and Warner Bros. declined to remark for this story, or reply questions on whether or not there have been discussions about creating a homosexual season of “The Bachelor.”

Underwood could be all for it. “I feel they need to focus on it,” he says. “It must be a dialog.” Requested if he’d wish to return to the collection to discover a potential male mate, he shrugs. “I don’t like talking in definitives, however I’m not ready to be in a present like that. I’m at a crossroads in my life proper now.” On some days, he imagines himself disappearing from the business fully, residing a quiet life in Denver, the place he not too long ago purchased his first house, completely away from TV cameras.

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Actuality TV has the facility to alter minds, showcasing underrepresented communities to sections of the nation who won’t come throughout homosexual, bisexual or transgender individuals of their on a regular basis lives.

However in Hollywood, progress has nonetheless been gradual. The variety of high-profile homosexual love tales on the motion pictures — amongst them, the Hulu romantic comedy “Happiest Season” and 2017 Sundance darling “Name Me by Your Identify” — stays small. However whereas actuality TV has observe report of together with LGBTQ individuals in casts of the whole lot from competitors to docu-series, there’s nonetheless one final taboo within the style. It’s uncommon to see a full-fledged homosexual love story, or hints of homosexual romance, on a actuality TV present. Even on “Dancing With the Stars,” there has but to be a same-sex dance couple. When Lance Bass, who’s brazenly homosexual, appeared on this system in 2008, he was paired with a feminine companion.

Underwood’s confronted demons as a closeted homosexual man. It acquired so darkish that he took tablets one night time final summer season, hoping he’d by no means get up. “I attempted to finish my life, and it didn’t work,” he says. “That was the saddest and most confused and most harm” he may bear in mind himself feeling.

Based on The Trevor Venture, the world’s largest nonprofit for suicide prevention amongst LGBTQ youth, prior to now yr, 40% of LGBTQ youth have reported they severely thought-about trying suicide; 80% mentioned that out-and-proud celebrities positively impression how they really feel about being LGBTQ.

“Of us who’re in positions to share their story — and never everybody has that chance — even have the chance to elevate others up,” says Kevin Wong, vp of communications at The Trevor Venture. For Underwood, rising up in Washington, Unwell., with a inhabitants of 15,000, there have been no homosexual function fashions. “We had one homosexual particular person in my whole city,” Underwood says. “And he was the butt of each joke.”

Although he felt that he was totally different on the age of 6, Underwood by no means acquired the prospect to work together with homosexual individuals. “I’d have carried out something to see a homosexual soccer participant,” he says, getting choked up. “The closest particular person I ever may have a look at was like Ricky Martin as a result of I really like music.”

He recollects the lengths he went to someday to observe “Brokeback Mountain,” the groundbreaking 2005 romance directed by Ang Lee, as a youngster. He used a good friend’s Blockbuster card to hire the film, in order that nobody in his household would suspect him of being homosexual. “That was very genuine to who I used to be, rising up within the Midwest,” says Underwood. “I wasn’t a cowboy, by any means, however I grew up on a farm in Illinois.”

Across the eighth grade, Underwood’s father noticed one thing on his son’s pc that raised a flag. “Homosexual porn was type of what I gravitated in the direction of,” Underwood admits, clenching his jaw.

On the time, Underwood denied being homosexual to his father. “I simply mentioned that I used to be curious and I used to be exploring and simply wanting,” Underwood says. “I bear in mind having that dialog with him and being like, ‘Simply don’t inform Mother.’”

After school soccer, Underwood entered the NFL draft, being signed as a free agent by the San Diego Chargers, then becoming a member of the Philadelphia Eagles’ observe squad and the Oakland Raiders. He remembers that when Michael Sam turned the primary brazenly homosexual participant drafted by the NFL in 2014, nobody within the locker room supported the thought. Their homophobia solely drove him deeper into the closet.

“Rising up in sports activities, I used to be taught that homosexual is unsuitable and homosexual is dangerous and soccer gamers are usually not homosexual,” Underwood says. “By the point I noticed that I used to be homosexual, I didn’t wish to be homosexual. It was straightforward for me to cover in plain sight behind a soccer masks and searching and fishing and the issues that this world tells us is ‘masculine’ and ‘manly.’”

After leaving the NFL in 2016, Underwood stumbled upon a random casting name in Denver for the “Bachelor” franchise. Producers took a fast liking to him. Inside a couple of months, he was on a airplane to Los Angeles, as a contestant on Becca Kufrin’s season of “The Bachelorette,” which aired in 2018. He turned a fan favourite, appeared on “Bachelor in Paradise” and finally landed the starring function on Season 23 of “The Bachelor” in 2019. A part of his attraction was his innocence: He turned referred to as “the Virgin Bachelor,” and advertising supplies plastered his face on a poster much like Judd Apatow’s “The 40-12 months-Previous Virgin.”

Underwood says he didn’t initially provide any details about his virginity. However when he didn’t interact in “locker room banter” with male contestants in the home in 2018, that led to a collection of questions.

“The producers, pretty much as good as they’re, in all probability picked up on how uncomfortable I used to be getting,” Underwood says. He by no means felt comfy with the promotional materials for his season of “The Bachelor,” however he doesn’t maintain a grudge. “I imply, they needed to do what they needed to do,” he says.

Through the years, Underwood has repeatedly slammed “The Bachelor” within the press for overplaying his virginity. Now, he presents an olive department.

“I used to be all the time on the lookout for any individual in charge,” he says of his anger. “I used to be passive-aggressive to the franchise after it was carried out. However abruptly, as I used to be popping out, the whole lot began to make a lot extra sense. I used to be a depressing particular person residing as a shell of a human being, and being who the world wished to see. I lastly needed to look myself within the mirror and say, ‘You’ve acquired to repair this.’”

Previous to “The Bachelor,” in his mid-20s, Underwood had a couple of sexual experiences with males, he reveals. “I’ll say this,” he begins with a protracted pause. “I used to be ‘the Virgin Bachelor,’ however I did experiment with males previous to being on ‘The Bachelorette.’”

He confirms he was, in truth, a virgin when he was on the ABC present. “Once I say ‘hookups,’ not intercourse,” Underwood says. “I wish to make that very clear that I didn’t have intercourse with a person, previous to that.” He reveals that he joined the relationship app Grindr below an alias in 2016 or 2017. (He’s at the moment single, however now not on the app.)

When he ended up discovering fame and changing into a family identify, Underwood was always nervous that one of many males he’d connected with may promote him out to the tabloids. “I bear in mind feeling so responsible, like ‘What the hell am I doing?’” Underwood says of his homosexual encounters. “It was my first time letting myself even go there, a lot in order that I used to be like, ‘I would like “The Bachelorette” in my life, so I may very well be straight.’”

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Underwood’s subsequent act in actuality TV couldn’t be extra totally different from “The Bachelor.” The upcoming Netflix docu-series about his life sounds much less like “Holding Up With the Kardashians” and extra like “I Am Cait,” the E! present that adopted Caitlyn Jenner as she transitioned into a girl and created a brand new life for herself, taking viewers on a journey of studying and acceptance.

Underwood says the aim of his Netflix present is to share a large number of LGBTQ tales, not simply his personal. Olympian Gus Kenworthy, an in depth good friend, will seem on the collection. However producers have made positive to not simply concentrate on white privileged homosexual males.

Within the collection, Underwood will discover his place of privilege, partly because of Kenworthy, who’s featured by his aspect as somebody who can relate to Underwood’s expertise, as a homosexual athlete who got here out within the highlight.

“He’s been any individual that I’ve not solely realized a lot from, however he’s held me accountable and he’s allowed me to see the privilege of being a straight-presenting homosexual, white man,” Underwood says of Kenworthy. “He identified how my path has been, in comparison with different individuals.”

Regardless of controversy, Netflix is standing behind the collection, in hopes of constructing higher understanding of the LGBTQ group via Underwood’s journey.

“One particular person’s expertise is not going to fill the void of queer tales on TV. We’ve to do higher as an business to focus on extra sorts of lives and love. That mentioned, we hope the present will assist problem outdated notions of what sort of tales can or must be on the middle of leisure,” says Brandon Riegg, vp of unscripted and documentary collection at Netflix.

When requested concerning the petition calling to cancel the yet-to-be-launched collection, the Netflix government says: “Colton has been public about his previous and the dangerous selections he’s made and this might be a part of the present, too. Whereas there’s pressure with offering a platform, we predict his sophisticated story, which incorporates him taking accountability, is one others can study from, and we belief Colton and the producers to deal with it in a considerate method.”

Nicole M. Garcia, a transgender Latina pastor, seems within the collection discussing religion with Underwood. “Right here he’s, a cisgender white man who comes out as homosexual, and he will get a present,” says Garcia. “Is it the best way issues must be? In all probability not. The entire system is rigged in order that Colton may get a docu-series about him. However we will both simply rail fully towards it, or we will attempt to use it to lift visibility.”

“What number of occasions have you ever interviewed a transgender Latina pastor?” Garcia provides, in a latest interview over the telephone. “I’m truthfully using on Colton’s coattails. I consider Colton actually needs to attempt to use his voice to lift the voice of the marginalized group.”

Garcia, who has an inclusive congregation in Boulder, Co., the place she hangs a satisfaction flag within the sanctuary, solely agreed to signal onto the Netflix present if she may signify the broader scope of the group, particularly with transgender individuals below assault. The pastor didn’t come out till she was 43 years outdated. Now, 61, she started transitioning in 2003 and was ordained in 2019. Raised within the Roman Catholic church in a big Latino household, she lived a life married to a girl and labored as a parole officer, hiding behind a uniform and alcoholism, which led to divorce.

“Each Colton and I’ve one thing in widespread in that rising up, we felt we needed to stay right into a stereotype. We each needed to stay within the poisonous masculinity that’s prevalent in our world,” Garcia says. “We might each hope that youthful individuals don’t need to undergo that and don’t need to lose a lot time attempting to be any individual else.”

Netflix will air Underwood popping out for the primary time to his household and associates, together with his father, who tells Selection his son’s sexuality didn’t shock him, and he truly tried to broach the topic with him in highschool, when he had suspicions.

“First, I put that on myself — what was I doing that he felt he couldn’t speak in confidence to me?” Scott Underwood says. “However Colton mentioned, ‘I didn’t know what I used to be but. I used to be nonetheless struggling.’”

“I understood that. He was nonetheless attempting to determine himself out,” his father says. He needs his son wouldn’t stay his whole life within the public eye, however he sees the impression his Netflix collection might have on households who abandon their youngsters for being homosexual.

“If it simply helps a couple of younger women and men come out and be happy with themselves and perceive that every one dad and mom aren’t going to be upset, it could save lives,” he says.

As for the youthful Underwood, the truth star is hoping his new present will carry higher understanding and shatter sure pre-conceived id politics.

“My dad is proud to say that he’s a conservative Republican, and he’s additionally proud to say, I’ve a homosexual son,” Underwood says. “I feel it’s essential for America to listen to that and see that. Proper now, the media makes it seem to be there isn’t any center floor.”

Styling: Lisa Cameron; Grooming: Joseph Michael; Cowl: Shirt: John Varvatos; Lead picture: Jacket: Perry Ellis; Shirt: John Varvatos; Embed Shirt: Carhartt

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